"Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling."(Proverbs 20:3)
It goes without saying that there are few of us spoiling for a fight daily. Now I know there are seasons of hostility within us all and times when we just are downright contrary. Really, do you think anyone would want to be that way. Contentious, antagonistic, cruel, and painful are brush strokes of the observer. Yet when quiet times of the soul come the peace we cry out for always demands that we put down our swords and walk in love.
Some feel that the battlefield is in some degree warranted for their causes while others feel they must pacify and coddle. Where is the balance? Where is the warranted struggle effective? Solomon in all his wisdom declares the avoidance as a mark of honor.
Yet we are called upon to "contend for the faith that was once given" by the early church leaders. It may be that we have for so long confused personality struggles with the holding of principle until blurry is the vision of the drunkenness of quarrelsome living. Commentators are at a premium and while watching one on his television show the brag was that over 4 million viewers tuned in daily to the program!
So we have honored quarreling? Have we become so opinionated that we 'spoil' for a fight? Is the fighter celebrated and the peaceful discarded? Do those who come in the name of peace come in wisdom or argumentation for a way of fighting that contends in yet another battlefield of lying and misrepresentation of truth in order to "keep the peace?"
I am a defender of the faith. How then must I proceed? The wise among us has offered the path of "choosing our fights." This is indeed the course of action Solomon preferred. To say the words, "avoiding a fight" did not exclude a fight that would appear on our doorsteps like a tornado's wind and demand rebuff. It only mirrored the wise and worthy instruction to seek avoidance yet be prepared to defend.
In my rant today let me chuckle and say that I am not spoiling for a fight with those who find opposition to my words. It just needs to be said. "Blessed are the peacemakers..."

